By Dr. Randy Carlson
To stay sharp and effective, you must schedule time to reflect on your parenting actions, the reactions of your children, and then be prepared to hit the “reset” button.
The philosopher Socrates observed that “the unexamined life is not worth living.” A powerful thought, but self-examination is tough and often emotionally unpleasant. That’s why you must make it intentional.
Set aside a specific time to reflect. Put it on your calendar, and treat it as your most important appointment. Be sure to schedule your time in a quiet location where you will not be disturbed.
Ask yourself – and answer honestly – questions about your parenting. Which parenting techniques were most effective with your children? Did you dispense love and correction in appropriate proportions? What were the triggers that caused you to lose control?
Develop a list of objectives and rank yourself weekly on scale of 1 to 10, with 1 meaning, “This was a complete struggle,” and 10 meaning, “I did this one exceptionally well.”
I grew up in a dysfunctional home, became a teenage alcoholic, got married and started a dysfunctional home. When I got saved I tried to control my children’s behavior so they wouldn’t go down the path I did. It resulted in rebellion. I learned some new techniques, tried them, and had some amazing results. I am a motivational speaker and teacher. I am the founder of Building Strong Families, Inc. in Michigan. Building Strong Families is a non-profit organization that offers free classes and seminars to strengthen the family unit.
I am the author of “Pass God’s Legacy to Your Children: One Talk at a Time.” The book is designed to help parents stay connected to their children into adulthood and to help parent teach their children problem-solving skills.
I am married to John. We have four grown children. Six grandchildren with one more on the way. They are the love of my life.
It is my passion to take the knowledge I’ve learned and get it into the hands of parents and other adults so we can help the next generation be passionate for Christ.
Website for Linda’s book: livingforhimllc.us
Excerpt from Linda’s book:
“You will gain a new perspective on why your children act the way they do as you learn exactly what is going on inside their bodies and brains. Understanding the brain, knowing how it matures, and at what level your children’s comprehension is at can make a world of difference on how you covey your message. The way the brain receives and processes information will change as your children grow and mature; therefore, the way you deliver information at each stage is critical.”
Website for Building Strong Families, Inc.: buildingstrongfamilies.us]]>