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Three Essentials for Blended Familiesby Dr. Randy Carlson But your marriage can thrive with some hard work and attention to your relationship and to defining the different roles that need to be played. Here are three essentials to help you be successful:
Get expectations out on the table.Start by learning as much as you can about your spouse’s past and, specifically, what really went wrong in previous marriages. Be honest about your own past relationship problems, and make sure those issues have been dealt with. Then put those things behind you and look ahead.
Parents take the lead.The biological parent must be the primary enforcer of discipline with their children. The other spouse is to be supportive of the biological parent, not argumentative or disagreeable in front of the children.
Clarify new roles and develop a shared vision.Stand closely shoulder-to-shoulder in developing this vision. There are going to be many forces coming against you. Be unified in love and hope for your future. Plus, one characteristic I’ve often observed in a strong marriage is that the parents actively impart their faith in God to their children. I encourage couples to explore their spiritual lives openly and boldly.
Michelle BorquezMichelle Borquez is the creator of the Freedom Series, a series for women that focuses on healing and wholeness after life’s difficulties. She is also the spokesperson for Beth Moore’s national TV special, “Living Well,” and for the GLO Bible. Michelle Borquez knows the challenges Christian women face. Her books include God Crazy (10,000 sold), Overcoming the Seven Deadly Emotions (10,000 sold), and Live, Laugh, Love Again (20,000 sold). Now she and her co-authors have developed “The Freedom Series,” a twelve mini-book series that equips women to move forward after the traumas of life. Michelle has hosted and been a featured guest on hundreds of television and radio programs, including; NBC’s Midday Connection, The 700 Club, Life Today, Positively Texas, and TBN. Live Again: Wholeness After Divorce [caption id="" align="alignright" width="160"] Available at Amazon[/caption] From Michelle: “Are you feeling alone in your divorce, without hope, and lost trying to figure out this new life you are forced to lead? Are there nights where loneliness feels as if it is closing in on you? Are thoughts of anger and resentment towards your former spouse consuming your heart and mind? Do you wonder if you will ever “live again”? “We want you to know there is hope after divorce. Michelle Borquez, host of the Live Again: Wholeness After Divorce DVD, has an encouraging message for you. “
Today’s Intentional Living Center Resource
- Renewing of our mind
- Renewing of our hearts and
- Renewing of our behavior.